troubled relationships

In the best of intimate relationships, there are those subtle and not so subtle waves of difficulties. Some disagreements make sense; his words against hers, her values in the face of his values, old traditions vs. new ideas and so on.
Sometimes the relationship between two people doesn’t seem to work out. The reason(s) can be any- cheating, infidelity, incompatibility, lack of trust and love, etc. There may be a number of reasons why you think your relationship isn’t going in the right direction, there may be an urge to break-up and move on. There may also be anger and frustration that may make you take the wrong decision. But if you are in a relationship, you need to know if it is worth saving or not. It is a decision that should not be taken in haste and one must think about it carefully and even discuss it with family and friends.
Cheating and infidelity often breaks the trust between the couple. The affected partner may feel rejected, unattractive and not loved. Once your mate gets to know about your new love, he/she may not remain the same with you. There will be a change in attitude and though the person may try to appear stronger, he/she will feel weak from inside. Sometimes when the other partner doesn’t mend his ways, the affected partner feels like walking past him.
Some couples face the incompatibility issue and their difference of opinion starts from the kitchen and goes on to everything. When both the partners refuse to compromise, there are bound to be arguments and differences. When it becomes difficult to sort out these issues, couples start considering themselves as incompatible.
Constant arguments and fights create emotional as well as physical distance between the partners. The distance increases with every fight. Soon you will realize, there is no love between you and your partner.
Well there is a solution for everything but there has to be an intention to go for it. If you don’t have the intention to sort out the issues, they will never be fine. So first decide what you want. Sit with your partner and discuss about the future of your relationship, what do you guys expect from each other, what do you think about each other and finally what do you want to do about your relationship.
If you feel you want to stay together, you must put in efforts to sort out each and every issue. Take the help of a counselor if the need be. A counselor as a third party is always the best option because he is unbiased.
But if you decide to leave your partner to make a life of your own, you must consider certain aspects and after-effects of this decision. Consider everything before deciding anything.